First Milestone | Top things we wish we knew before having babies blog cover photo
Remember when you were pregnant, and everyone wanted to either tell you how tired you look or share their labour horror stories with you? We're not down with that, no pregnant mama wants to hear all the shit stuff about having a baby before they've even reached the mark! And let's face it, the good outweighs the bad most days but people don't seem as quick to talk about it! 

We want to change that, so we asked some amazing New Zealand mums from all walks of life to share with us what they wish they had been told before having their first baby. Scrap all the horrible stuff people tell you and remember these absolute gems of practical and reassuring advice instead!

The beautiful photos used below are from the talented Laura from lifestyle blog Oh Really O'Riley, who is one of my favourite mamas to follow on Instagram. You can read her blog here or follow her Instagram here!

First Milestone | Top things we wish we knew before having babies blog cover photo
1. Expect the unexpected.
2. Remember every baby is different, what worked for others might not work for you.
3. Breastfeeding is scientifically best, but don't feel bad if you can't do it. The important thing is that baby is fed and growing.
4. It gets better and so much easier because no stage lasts forever, don't stress the small things.
5. The initial days might be a bit tougher than the later ones, but it's always good to ask for help and not worry about doing it all on your own.
6. Healing can take a long time and it's all down to the individual. If you're still recovering just trust your instincts and take care of yourself.
7. The mum guilt gets easier.
8. You will feel vulnerable and it's okay to experience a thousand emotions at once.
9. You don't need heaps of baby stuff, don't financially screw yourself trying to get all the latest gadgets.
10. Don't pretend to be superwoman, have afternoon naps when the baby sleeps.
11. In amongst the chaos it's actually really fun! Everybody always talks about the negative things!
12. It's okay to feel overwhelmed and it's okay to accept help.
13. It's hard on your relationship, communicate as much as you can.
14. Baby can adapt to your life, you don't have to adapt solely to them. Don't think you can no longer do any of the things you enjoy.
15. It's also okay to not like being a mum all the time. It doesn't mean you don't like your baby!
16. Don't get so caught up in routine that it rules your life.
17. Engorgement happens and it's good to research before having baby what you can do to relieve it.
18. It's also good to research symptoms of mastitis so you can nip it in the bud early and not end up completely out of action too.
19. Don't expect your baby to sleep anywhere else but YOU at the beginning!
20. Trust your own instincts instead of worrying about what other babies are doing.
21. You may bleed for ages after and it's completely normal.
22. Everyone will have an opinion so only hold on to what you need and throw the rest away.
23. You can leave the housework, it can always wait.
24. You will sleep a full night again eventually.
25. Enjoy all the moments because they grow up much too fast.
26. Take advantage of long lonely showers while you can and try to sleep for an eternity before you have a newborn.
27. Always do your pelvic floor exercises!
28. Your baby has a sleep regression what seems like every week until they turn 18 so don't sweat the changes.
29. A baby carrier can be a saving grace in the early days so baby can sleep on you but you can still get the important things done. Especially if you have other children to tend to at the same time!
30. It takes a village.

Dani x

First Milestone | Portrait of owner and blogger DaniDani is the creative mind and hands behind First Milestone, and most blogs you see written here will have been penned by her. Dani enjoys RuPaul's Drag Race and crime documentaries, kumara chips and a good ol' Monteith's Golden Lager. 
January 20, 2019 — Dani Lee

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